To reach a higher level of being, you must assume a higher concept of yourself. To desire a state is to have it. “I AM” (your true self) is not interested in man’s opinion. … Your true self, will cause these conceptions to appear in your world and you will live with them as though they are real.” – Neville Goddard
Most of us have landed on Neville Goddard’s teaching (the law of assumption) because we had a very low concept of self to start with. As a matter of fact, a large majority of the people in the manifesting community are people who have been dumped by an ex that they are still very much in love with. It is that deep wound that led them to discover the everyone is you pushed out theory which comes from Neville Goddard’s teaching.
The mains reason why we have discovered this conscious manifesting community was because of our concept of self.
What is Your Concept of Self?
In short, your concept of self is how you see, believe, and think of yourself. Your concept of self is the identity that you’ve given to yourself. Your concept of self includes self-love as well, but it is not limited to self-love. Even though your concept of self is an inside job, it is felt in every area of your physical life and it is felt by other people, consciously or unconsciously. For example, as soon as I speak to a new client, I have a pretty good idea of their concept of self. And as far as I can tell, I am never wrong.
This is why your concept of self or self-concept is the most important thing that you need to work on whether you want to manifest your ex (your specific person) back or anything else in your life. As Neville says in the quote above, your concept of self will appear in your world, because the whole vast world is yourself push out. So long as you do not change your concept of self, your life will be the same. So, if you are not where you want to be in your life right now, your concept of self should be your number one priority. Even if you’re after a specific person that you perceive to be “outside” of yourself.
Why You Lost Your SP
Because of your belief in external things you think power into them by transferring the power that you are to the external thing. Realize you yourself are the power you have mistakenly given to outer conditions. – Neville Goddard
You could read one experience after another and you would undoubtedly find a common thread among all those hundreds of SP experiences out there. And that common thread is that the person who was dumped has had or have developed a low concept of self at some point. They started feeling anxious, insecure, jealous, fearful, and other feelings related to low concept of self. As a result, their world had to conform to their concept of self.
When you are in love with someone, that person is the first person that is going to reflect your concept of left, and that’s why they have no choice but to “abandon” you. They abandoned you because you have abandoned yourself first. You, yourself, had feelings and beliefs of not being good enough and not deserving love. Therefore, what you had deemed yourself to be had to be reflected in the person that you loved and loved you, because they are YOU pushed out.
You have not been dumped by your SP because of reasons outside of you. You had, in fact, abandoned your-self because of your concept of self. Your concept of self will create the perfect recipe for people to stick to you or to leave you, to be loyal to you, or to betray you, to respect you, or to disrespect you. And this is regardless of who you “think” those people are. In your reality, they can only be a reflection of you anyway.
I have often spoken of my own story here in this blog and on my YouTube channel, about how I was the queen of changing people from their Dr. Jekyll version to their Mr. Hide version. I have seen people changing their behavior toward me from one end of the spectrum to the other, to the point that I couldn’t recognize them anymore. I have done this all throughout the better part of my life until I learned about the law of assumption. All that time, not knowing that those people, were just reflecting my own low concept of self.
People in your life have no choice but to conform to your concept of self. To what you believe and assume about yourself, which will most likely dictate what you believe and assume about others.
How to Shift Your Physical World
I AM (your true self) is not interested in man’s opinion. All its interest lies in your conviction of yourself. What do you say of the I AM within you? Can you answer and say, “I AM Christ”? Your answer or degree of understanding will determine the place you will occupy in life. Do you say or believe yourself to be a man of a certain family, race, nation, etc.? Do you honestly believe this of yourself? Then life, your true self, will cause these conceptions to appear in your world and you will live with them as though they are real. – Neville Goddard
Neville didn’t say that in order to change your life you need to be taller, slimmer, richer, or even smarter. He said that in order to change your world you must ASSUME a higher concept of yourself. The shift that you have to make is an inner shift, it has nothing to do with outer appearances. The outer “reality” means nothing because it’s just the effect, your inner world is the cause. What matters is what you assume in your mind, in your consciousness, which is the only reality.
When you want to manifest a specific person, if you do manage to manifest them back without changing your concept of self, how long will you be able to keep them? I see so many people focusing on manifesting a text message, for example, but why do they want to manifest that text message in the first place? If it’s from a place of neediness, what is going to happen once you’ve got that text? Most likely and according to what I hear, nothing, because you haven’t changed your concept of self. So more often than not, if you managed to manifest that silly text message, your SP is going to go silent again. Because you’ve managed to manifest an effect, but you haven’t changed the cause.
If you’ve lost your SP let this be your wake up call that something about you needed to change. A lot of people who I have worked with came to realized how much they have changed from the inside out, to the point that they don’t even recognize themselves. Because of that deep wound of having been abandoned by the person they love, it forced them to recognized that they needed to change from the inside out.
The best way to change the way you think about yourself, is by creating a new story for yourself. Telling a new story about yourself start with channing your inner talking, as Neville called it, which we call affirmations today. I know there is a big debate about affirmations in the manifesting community, but there is no need for it, as affirmations are natural, they are running through your head day in and day out either consciously or unconsciously. So, by controlling what you’re telling yourself all day long, you change your mental diet. And by changing your mental diet, you are changing your concept of self.
Many people came to understand that they needed to change their concept of self. And once they did, a whole new world started to appear for them. Many of them have already got their specific person back, and many others are on their way. Either way, they’ve gotten the most important thing back, which is themselves.