Many of you have discovered the teaching of Neville Goddard because you were in a search for a specific person, namely a lover or ex-partner that you wanted back in your life. And if you still are manifesting that specific person with a desperate need to do so, you may be missing the point completely.
The reason I decided to write on this topic it’s because I see so many people in the manifesting community being so focused on that, that they are completely forgetting themselves in the process. If you are doing this, then you are missing the point, and this article is for you.
It is Not About a Specific Person
It was never about your sp. Yes, you did land on the manifesting/law of assumption community because you wanted to get the love of your life back, but this was just an excuse for you to discover who you truly are, because your world is YOUR consciousness out, not that of your sp no matter how much in love you are with them, no matter how much you feel that you are meant to be together, and no matter how much you believe that you are soulmates.
The reason why you discovered this teaching that is still eluding most people walking the earth it’s because YOU were ready for this. Nonetheless, your human-self, being what it is, might have gotten in the way forcing you to focus too much on outer results and not enough on spiritual growth. However, the truth is that if you take on that spiritual awakening journey, every single of your desires will fall in your lap.
Learn to Go Within to Manifest
A very common mistake that I see in the manifesting community it’s that a lot of people are trying to fix their problems from without when the root of the problem comes from within. A good example of this it’s when people get panicky when they have a dream contrary to their desire. More often than not it’s about a specific person. They do not understand how dreams work so they get all confused and even disturbed by dreams that they sometimes even take literally.
When a dream is to be taken literally, you will never question it, you will know. I’ve had a couple of such dreams in my life and they feel totally different. I promise you that you’ll never confuse such a dream with a regular dream. On the other hand, when you have “regular” dreams, which are much more common, even if you don’t feel good about them, you know they are just dreams. The reason why they do not match your desire it’s simply because those dreams are giving you a hint that your subconscious beliefs do not quite match your desires yet. In such a case, instead of feeling sad and depressed about it, simply take this as a sign that you have to keep on working on yourself. And if you persist in doing this, your dreams are bound to match your desires eventually.
The one thing not to do, however, is to dwell on a bad dream for the better part of your day, because if you do, all you are going to get from this is more reaffirming dreams that you are not mentally and emotionally aligned with your desire. That’s how we create vicious cycles that are so hard to get out of. You keep on feeling a certain way, then this is confirmed by your subconscious mind in the form of dreams. And then, you are disturbed by the dreams which you are replaying in your head again and again in your waking hours.
In order to break this vicious cycle, you need to understand that everything in your world comes from you, including your dreams, and your dreams are not meant to control you. Your dreams are just pointers to show you where you are and it’s up to you to change that by changing your story and your mental diet. Remember that the whole world is yourself pushed out.
If your overall feelings and emotions are still on the negative side, it’s up to you to make the decision to change that. Being on a spiritual journey is about change. If there was no change there would be no spiritual growth. And spiritual growth means understanding our human self from within. Since we are in this body and as long as we are in this body our spirituality will always be linked to our human self whether we like it or not. But that’s OK. Being on a spiritual journey doesn’t mean not being human with human feelings. Being spiritual just means that we understand and manage those feelings better.
If you are still emprisoned by negative feelings and emotions, ask yourself the honest question, why do I still feel this way?
Do you still feel abandoned? Do you still feel betrayed? Do you still feel hurt? Do you still feel not good enough? Do you still feel not deserving? If you still feel any of those things or any similar emotions, this is why your dreams and waking 3D life are not to your liking. And this is why you need to see them as friends rather than foes. Both dreams and circumstances in 3D are just showing us where we stand mentally and emotionally.
You need to go to the source of those negative feelings and ask yourself the question, why do I still feel this way? Unless you go to the source and answer that question, your specific desires may still elude you. So, whether you do it on your own, or you decide to ask for help for this, this is part of your spiritual growth and journey.
But again, at the end of the day, it’s all about YOU, and unless you heal you, there is no specific person, or money, or job and career on earth that will make YOU feel better. You may be under that illusion, but I promise you that’s just an illusion. You are the operant power, yes, but this means that it’s ‘all-inclusive’ since everything in your 3D comes from you.
Your Desire is YOU and You are Your Desire
Do not go seeking for that which you are. Those who go seeking for love only make manifest their own lovelessness and the loveless never find love. Only the loving find love and they never have to seek for it – Neville Goddard
I don’t think that there is a single manifesting coach that has not said or written plenty of times that the ONLY way to manifest love or your specific person is through understanding and practicing self-love, self-respect, self-esteem, self-confidence, and everything that’s included in what we call self-concept. And the keyword to notice in self-concept and all that it includes is the word SELF. Unless you work on YOUR-SELF your desires, including if it is another person will keep eluding you. As Neville beautifully said in the quote above seeking love only manifest lovelessness. This is true because if you are seeking love outside of you to feel loved, then you are not loving YOUR-SELF. On the other hand, when you learn how to truly love YOU, love is bound to seek you. As within, so without.
The reason why so many people are afraid to focus on loving themselves it’s because they have the erroneous belief that if they put the focus on THEM-SELVES, their sp will go away. But this is also a vicious cycle that so many in the manifesting community fall into. If this is what you believe, then you couldn’t be more wrong. Focusing on YOU and your self-concept not only will help you manifest your sp faster, but it’s the BEST way to manifest them back and the ONLY way to keep them for good.
So, don’t go seek outside for what you are lacking inside. Go within and practice self-love to the point that not only you will feel better about yourself and truly love yourself, but you are going to be a magnet for love whether you are manifesting a new person or an ex-partner.